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As we traverse the next seven chapters, we begin to reframe our language. “I don’t trust you!” doesn’t equal “I distrust you.” Likewise, “I trust you” doesn’t mean that I have little or no distrust in you. I’ve painstakingly tried to be precise and break the limiting chains of this kind of language. It is important to separate the two because doing so gives us the power to heal and repair relationships that have been severed by broken trust. If our only option lies within a single spectrum of trust to distrust, we are held hostage by the emotions of our amygdala or the calculated process of the prefrontal cortex: one constantly pushing the other out to take dominance. Having the freedom to hold a high level of distrust while deciding to trust again gives us the

authority and control to heal and sustain trust relationships. Trust and distrust are not at war. They are allies. Together they take us by each hand and walk us into a healthy and hopeful culture of trust.

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